My relationship with my wife was pretty uneventful before we discovered webcamming. We had fallen into the routine (rut) most couples never anticipate before getting married. Work, tend to kids, Sunday night “missionary sex”, pay bills, repeat.
I’m not saying I wouldn’t marry my wife all over again, but I think if given another chance, I probably would have tried other things first. Maybe been a little more adventurous. But before I get myself in trouble with the Mrs and end up having to spend the night in my neighbour’s tree fort again, let me just say that broadcasting our sex lives on the internet changed our lives in ways few can possibly imagine. It didn’t just awaken the sexual beast in my wife and I, it made me a better person, husband, neighbour, friend and entrepreneur.
It didn’t just awaken the sexual beast in my wife and I, it made me a better person, husband, neighbour, friend and entrepreneur.
Like the webcam couples in episode one of Sex Diaries (airing in three parts on Mondays – April 4, 11, 18 – on SBS and SBS On Demand), I wanted to share myself with the world. But when my wife and I decided to broadcast our sex life, we were met with judgment. Trollers on our site would call us “perverts” or “fat pigs”, but we kept broadcasting, and today have a loyal following of over 132 fans. It’s been a little over a year now and my life has improved exponentially.
1. I’m a better listener
We don’t actually speak to our fans, we read their chats in real time. Sometimes those chats are requests or compliments, but each line of text forces us to stop and really consider the comment as its own form of curiosity. One time a fan asked us if we’d ever had sex in a public place, like the zoo. My wife and I looked at each other and realized the irony of that question – at the what’s better than grindr time, we were already in a monkey cage in our basement!
2. The morale of my employees has gone through the roof
I have 12 employees at a well-respected condiment manufacturing plant. When the wife and I first started webcamming, business was slow and morale was low. Obviously, we were novices and didn’t share our secret with locals. But when one of my employees showed up at my home with some paperwork for me to sign and caught my wife and I in latex body suits, I had to explain myself. It could have been awkward for everyone but it wasn’t.
In fact, it was a great relief to that employee that we “knew how to party”. Word got around, morale skyrocketed, and today most of my employees watch us on a daily basis. We’re even entertaining the notion of doing a “shoot” on the factory floor on a mountain of tomato sauce packets (they would all be disposed of afterwards, I assure you).
Trollers on our site would call us “perverts” or “fat pigs”, but we kept broadcasting, and today have a loyal following of over 132 fans.
3. Everyday love making has improved like nobody’s business
Let’s get one thing straight. When we’re on camera, we’re doing it like champs and chimps. Chimp champs. It’s fun and exciting and full of all types of primal craziness. But when the camera is off and the mood hits us just right (like when we’re washing the car or doing house work), then we know it’s time for dirty business to become sweet, sweet love making. I light candles, put on some early Dannii Minogue and it’s on.