Are you confused about what a ‘no strings attached’ relationship really means? Perhaps you have been offered an NSA relationship by a man you want to sleep with, but you’re not sure what this type of relationship will mean for you exactly.
In this article, I am going to not only explain what a ‘no strings attached’ relationship consists of, but also what the risks and benefits are of having one. There is a lot to think about, even if it might seem simple. Sex is more complicated than we all think. So, let’s start unraveling what it is all about, and then you can decide if you want to jump into one or hold back.
What is the basis of a ‘No Strings Attached’ Relationship?
An NSA relationship works on the basis that two people decide to have a purely sexual relationship with each other. There can’t be any feelings towards the other person, and if you speak about anything in depth it must be in relation to sex and what you want from each other and your relationship in terms of pleasure.
You are not in the relationship to get to know the other person on an emotional level. It’s called “no strings attached” because quite literally you won’t anything attaching you together. You are not committed to the other person in any way shape or form except the fact you will be having sex together. have You are both in the relationship to fulfill each other’s sexual needs, as well as your own.
Is a ‘No Strings Attached’ relationship monogamous?
Most NSA relationships are open relationships. This means that you won’t be monogamous together. You can both sleep around with whoever you like and it won’t be classed as being unfaithful. At the end of the day, you won’t have feelings for the other person so it shouldn’t matter if you are both sleeping with other people too.
However, it can get very messy if one person starts to feel romantically towards the other person in the NSA relationship and they are not being monogamous. But, let’s not jump ahead too quickly – the cons of an NSA relationship will be discussed later on in the article.
Who should you get into a ‘No Strings Attached’ relationship with?
The general rule is that you shouldn’t get into an NSA relationship with your friends. Although some people can cope and enjoy having sex with their friends, it might ruin the platonic friendship that you had before. Having a ‘Friends with Benefits’ situation is very different from an NSA relationship. In a ‘Friends with Benefits’ relationship, you are still keeping a good relationship with your friend, but you’re just adding sex into the mix. In an NSA relationship, there is no relationship other than a sexual one.
It is a lot easier to start an NSA relationship with someone you don’t really care for, but obviously, you still need to find them attractive. Sexual interactions with friends can be difficult because you care for each other. You might start to care a little too much for your friend if you start to have sex regularly with them. A one-time hook-up with a friend is normally not a problem but jumping into constant sex with them is a whole different kettle of fish. Feelings can develop and friendships can be ruined.
It’s probably best to find someone that shares a mutual sexual attraction with you. You don’t need to know them very well, and that’s probably for the best. At the end of the day, in an NSA relationship, you aren’t going to know them any better mentally, just physically. You are much less likely to start developing feelings for someone that you don’t really know.