Can great sex start at 50? Yes, according to a Tracey Cox. The internationally-bestselling author and sex expert has appeared on Oprah, CNN and The Today Show, and infused her decades of knowledge into 17 books, including Hot Sex: How to Do It, which is available in 140 countries and has been translated into over 20 languages.
Her latest book, Great Sex Starts at 50: How to Age-Proof your Libido, is a guide for anyone who’s felt challenged by changes in their sex life or desires over time, and really anyone who hopes to have awesome sex well into the future.
Tracey and I spoke recently about some of the themes in this book and her mission to help others find their way back to gratifying sex-something she herself experienced not long ago.
“Sexless Relationships + Age-Proofing Your Libido with Tracey Cox”
Great Sex Starts at 50. As someone who is not yet 50, that title inspires me. So I had to ask Tracey why she went she went with that title for her book.
Well, everybody has this impression that you have the best sex of your life when you’re young, in your 20s and your 30s, or, actually probably even earlier in your teens is probably when lots of people had the best sex or early 20s. And I wanted to let people know that, in fact, you can have not only good sex in the in the later part of your life but actually better sex than you had in the beginning because sex datingreviewer.net/local-hookup/tucson changes as you get older.
I mean, lots of things change, I think, as you get older. You get more comfortable with yourself; you know what you want.
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And sex can get challenging as you get older, but there are ways to overcome pretty much all of these challenges and turn sex around and make it something even better, particularly for women.
Even so, many long-term relationships become sexless over time. She has a whole chapter dedicated to the topic. Sexlessness isn’t necessarily a bad thing, as she points out, at least not for everyone-and she’s not just talking about asexual folks.
The problem, Tracey says, is that too many people sort just let sex dwindle away, without ever really talking about it. This wasn’t something Tracey set out to cover in her latest book, until she delved into writing it.
I think the biggest shock I got when I wrote this book was how many couple friends that I know really well, who are very close, they share everything, they’ve just quietly stopped having sex, and haven’t actually had a conversation about it.
So sexless marriages are all around you, believe me. If you’re, you know, got a couple who’ve been together for a while and they’re over 50 or even younger than that, lots of couples just quietly stop having sex.
Now, there is nothing wrong with that. And sometimes, you know, there are many reasons why people stop having sex. Sometimes, you know, you’ve had loads of sex, you’ve been together since you were like, 17,18. You’ve just done it all, been there and you’re just quite happy to say, “You know what? We’ve had enough now.”
In the book, Tracey shared research findings on this topic. In 2018, a national study showed that adults in the US who reported no sexual activity all reached an all-time high. And a report from the University of Chicago showed that nearly one-quarter of adults surveyed hadn’t had sex in the previous year, including more men having no sex than women.